Communication - so much going on
As I interviewed two people for an article today I marvelled at how much goes on when you're sitting across from someone, simply talking.
A lot of it is unconscious, of course. I guess most people don't even think about it. The only reason I do is that I realised I kind of think like a computer - where a conversation is a transfer of information, nothing more, nothing less.
In reality, none of us thinks like a computer. In every conversation, your mind is assessing:
- your environment
- the other person(s) - their intent, personality, and most importantly how much like us they are
- the body language, pauses, backtracks, and facial expressions of the other person
- what they're saying
Why am I mentioning this? In case there are other souls like me out there who, for some reason or another, suffer information overload during a simple conversation. The first step towards changing your overload reaction is being aware. And it's amazing what you can do when you're aware.